Wen Tzu - Verse 165, Part II

from Verse One Hundred Sixty-Five

Therefore the way to evaluate people is this: if they are of high status, observe what they promote; if they are wealthy, observe what they give; if they are impoverished, see what they accept; if they are of lowly status, observe what they do.

~ Wen-tzu: Understanding the Mysteries ~

For me, this passage is so dead on target. Too often, we judge others by the wrong criteria. We look to their superficial words or sentiments as the sole basis for our judgment of their sincerity or character. Later, we become aggrieved when the facade fades and their true motivations become known.

I've found that the best way to size someone up is to watch them when they don't think they are being watched. As the old saw goes, actions speak louder than words. I most value those individuals who know how to walk their talk.

This post is part of a series. For an introduction, go here.